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Sheri Handel's avatar

Balzac was clearly on a caffeine high when he wrote that comment about coffee. And, I think Swift was lying; or maybe pulling our legs (all of us, both of them). I really don't see how anyone can drink one cup of coffee a week. Great read, Sarah. You're always revealing what most people can't see.

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Cynthia Wall, LCSW's avatar

First, thank you for my favorite typo of the week! "Not that healing from mental illness minus substack use was easy." But thank you! Sugar was my first addiction. Funny my parents didn't question that I make "only" a dozen cookies at a time, or one layer box cakes. Couldn't they suspect an 8 to 12 year old was eating the other half as batter? And when nothing else available? Brown sugar sufficed. It calmed me, craving being appeased. But I get it now that was the "small pain easing a bigger pain" of hormesis. Creating a craving, then fulfilling it secretly was a double whammy of dopamine up, serotonin down, and of course, MORE. Most of what I had to quit (for self-preservation) is common usage. People told me that reading, sugar, and later marijuana, were not addictive. Fools. I won that battle, being right. But it is a bit lonely in the abstinent corner of society. You've made it less so. Hugs, Cynthia, a fellow traveler and writer on many different roads.

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Sarah Fay's avatar

Oh, my gosh! I have no idea how that got in there. Clearly I think about Substack far too much.

We're kindred spirits. I love when they tell us things like that aren't addictive. It's like, huh?

This: " Creating a craving, then fulfilling it secretly was a double whammy of dopamine up, serotonin down, and of course, MORE."

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Grant's avatar

I enjoyed hearing your voice, your honesty, and your creative flow. True to your clever title, you covered some territory that is rarely crossed while on the topic of addiction, which I found entertaining and informative. Thank you for inspiring me to put more effort into being a better writer.

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Sarah Fay's avatar

Thank you!

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Barbara Charis's avatar

It is said that sugar is more addictive than crack...and something which helps. Keeping sugar and processed products out of the house. Eating unprocessed specific organic fruits, and vegetables in abundance, along with organic eggs, salmon (not farmed), sardines, goat cheese (not more than 2 oz), and drink herb teas using stevia to sweeten. You will not have any craving for sweets. Everyone is biochemically unique and even the wrong fruit or vegetable can destroy the internal organs. I eat organic spinach (not lettuces or kale). I came across a company with Organic avocado (16 2 oz packets), which i use along with the WildBrine Beet, Cabbage, Pear Mix in my dinner salad. On alternate days, I have been eating organic eggs. Bananas happen to be my best fruit and i have them for breakfast and lunch. Mid morning I have some concord grapes. I do use natural supplements: Mary Ruth's Organic Liquid Vitamins in the morning and her Liquid Minerals in the evening. I have been using Bio Trust (Grass-fed Pasture-Raised Non-GMO) Collagen in my one mug of daily coffee; along with Science Natural Turmeric at lunchtime. I have a drawer full of other supplements, which i am not using at the moment. I am trying to eliminate gelatin capsules and fillers. My upcoming newsletter is entitled: Flawed studies: How medicine got off track! barbaracharis.substack.com

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Sarah Fay's avatar

That's exactly what's happened to me. I don't even think about having ice cream.

You're such a trove of information and resources, Barbara! Thank you for sharing them.

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Barbara Charis's avatar

Everyone has information to share, which would help lift others. We need to realize the importance of Creator-guided human beings ...and not depend on soulless profit-seeking entities for information. They don't have real answers. I listen to everyone, because you never know where a 'gem' of information will be coming from.

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David E. Roy  Ph.D.'s avatar

Thank you for your deep & extensive sharing. I’m convinced that the gaps in care from birth to age 3 (the Attachment phase) underlie much of our insecurity. See my original post for the explanation.

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Chris Stanton's avatar

Sugar was my first addiction too, with the same kinds of behaviors you described. It’s a beast.

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Sarah Fay's avatar

It's a beast. Yes,

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Christina Patterson's avatar

A fascinating (and beautiful) piece, Sarah. Your self-discipline is truly extraordinary. (Please breathe on me, so I can catch a tiny fraction of it.)

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Sarah Fay's avatar

I'm sending it through the ether.

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Christina Patterson's avatar

Thank you!

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